It’s almost time for New Years Eve, and for those of us who find ourselves single again after the end of a marriage or long-term relationship, the way we feel about this particular night can be a billboard-sized reflection of how we currently feel about the life we are living. For some, it’s a time to reflect upon the ups and downs of 2009, ultimately filled, nonetheless, with hope and excitement about the possibilities a new year brings. For others, it can lead to sadness, victim thinking, and the onset of a pity party extraordinaire. Take a few moments today to pinpoint the types of thoughts you are having this week. Are you sending out Pity Party invites, or celebrating YOU and the fantastic opportunities to be created in 2010? Today’s guest blog is written by Dignity Dater, Tambre Leighn. Tambre, widowed in her mid-thirties, has had many reasons to wallow in self-pity, yet she made 2009 her year to deep dive into the Dating With Dignity 10-Step Process to Manifest Love.

Ugh. I’m supposed to be better than this. How could I have done such a thoughtless thing? And then I began to think further. What other mistakes have I made this year? And more importantly, how can I change these behaviors and begin to let those mistakes take me to a higher place of being in 2010? In fact, I realize, these mistakes are opportunities to grow, become a better person. I can become more compassionate. Learn to stop ignoring the small voice. I can change, shift, transform, and learn.

I have been keeping a journal while I’ve been here containing thoughts and ideas for 2010. Things I want to do. Places I want to go, and goals I would like to achieve. And as a result, I have decided to become a better at communicating with family. I am going to send more notes. I am going to forgive myself for mistakes made, and put writing condolence and thank you notes higher on “my list” to do list. I am going to send birthday greetings, and send more gifts. I am going to practice what I teach — make my words and actions match. What is on your list?

Now, on to the guest blog, written by David Shade. While it has nothing to do with Christmas, per se, it does for me. It was on Christmas Eve, six years ago, that I was madly in love with the consummate bad boy. He was all these things. Sometimes he was worse. Sometimes he was better. I tell people, “he was the best, worst thing that ever happened to me” because the pain I suffered as a result of this relationship was debilitating. The good news is that it took me to the depths of myself, forcing me to pick myself up, transform my thinking, and take back control of my life.

My wish is for you to take control of your life in 2010. I’m here to support you on the journey. In the meantime, I’m going to smile, post this blog, breathe deeply, and do what is necessary to enjoy the warm Maui breeze —

Now, on to Bad Boys. I’m dedicating this blog to mine.

It’s time for another Guest Blog today.  This installment is a true-life story written by Danielle,  a woman who has learned to date with dignity in 2009. Her transformation is brilliant.  Her heart open.  And her intention magnificent.  Enjoy her story…. “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally […]

It’s time for another Guest Blog today.  This installment is a true-life story written by Danielle,  a woman who has learned to date with dignity in 2009. Her transformation is brilliant.  Her heart open.  And her intention magnificent.  Enjoy her story…. “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally […]

Here is the latest installment of the Dignity Dating Den, live from the Westin Villas in Maui, Hawaii! While I miss my co-host Christian Anderson this week, I did want to give you something to think about as you head into Christmas week. Enjoy your time off, connect with friends and family, and count your […]

Dating is a process a lot of us really can live without. It’s an emotional roller coaster that can drive you to drink four year-old bottles of Mike’s Hard Lemonade from the back of your refrigerator. There are so many ups and downs in dating. Here is a list of some of the most frustrating dating ups and downs, and how to feel better about them:

To kick things off, I would like to introduce you now to to the first of these blogs written by David Shade, nationally recognized sex and relationship expert. David is the author of the acclaimed book, “Select Women Wisely,” and is currently writing “Select Men Wisely,” for which I am authoring one chapter.

Alert: The word, “relationship,” is, in fact, not a bad word!

There is absolutely no need to avoid this word when you are dating someone whom you are beginning to care about. However, it must be used correctly. Thus, it is imperative that in using the word “relationship” in conversation you remember the following guidelines:

Ready to find long-term love in 2010? Watch this episode of the Dating Den to discern between the man who is looking for long-term love and the guy who only wants something casual? Listen to dating coach, Marni Battista, and Dignity Dating Man Panelist, Christian Anderson, give you the low-down on how to find love! Want more, check out https://datingwithdignity.com