By Larry Michel
The New Year is almost here – full of resolutions and promises. If you are single, you might have the resolution to meet someone special this year. If so, this is a perfect time to give careful thought to what you are looking for in a relationship. Most people base compatibility on just physical characteristics and mental characteristics.
The physical part is everything we see. If the person has the right look, size and shape, energy level and even in the same geographical area, you have a good physical match.
The mental part is what most of us think is everything else. It’s who the person is. How they were raised, what they believe in. What hopes, dreams and wishes they have. Their spiritual beliefs, desires for family, travel and other activities. Their taste in clothes, music and entertainment. In a nutshell this is called the product of nurturing — what we have become since birth and how we chose to live today. If this is a great match, you may be well on your way to a wonderful relationship.
If the physical and mental parts are both wonderful for each of you, then this should be a great match, right? That’s what the online dating sites want us to believe, which is why we see every site construct their profiles the same way. Plenty of pictures, videos and audios and a good series of descriptions or profiles matched by questionnaires.
This does not work for the same reason a relationship based on just the physical and emotional aspects of the relationship is typically in for some big surprises. When they do work, it is a very lucky match.
The third aspect, which is as critical, if not more so than the first two is “energetic”. We are born with a specific energetic blueprint. Like our blood type, it does not change. It’s very basic in many ways. We have a definable way that we communicate, process information and a speed we run our lives, how we relate to money and a sexual response type. If our energetic patterns (the blueprint) don’t match someone else’s then there are very definable challenges that will come up. In this situation I would say you are an apple and your partner is an orange. You can please and scream and ask nicely for them to change, but it will never happen.
If you do match energetically and the other two aspects ARE a good match also, then go to town. There is so much potential for love and growth together that you might as well hang on for the love ride of your life.
If you are not a good energetic match and you are in love and totally committed to your partner, then you owe it to yourself to find out what the energetic dynamic is, so you can support each other fully rather than hold resentments, blame or guilt.
For this New Year, if you are single and dating, I encourage you to look for a partner who can match you on all three levels. If you are in a relationship, I encourage you to support and understand your current partner in all three areas. Understanding all the levels that create compatibility will make for a deeper, more fulfilling relationship.
Larry Michel, founder of MatchMatrix, shares his thoughts, experiences and insights about relationships. His focus is energetic connections. If you are looking for true joy and happiness, you may have to examine old paradigms. Larry also hosts the radio show The Larry Love Show. To visit Larry’s blog, go to http://bit.ly/rG5SnY. For more information on MatchMatrix, go to www.matchmatrix.com.