Who should pay on the first date? The second? What if you make more than him, does it matter? Should it matter? Should you reach for your wallet at all or just pretend to? What about ‘going Dutch’… does it kill any chance for romance?
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Okay, if no one else has a comment, I will say this. How cocky is that to tell a woman the next date is “her turn”? What if she doesn’t even want to go out with him again? Also, I would like to be courted and wooed, not have a “reciprocal exchange of dates”. To me this smacks of the modern mindset that you have to look out for yourself in a relationship, meaning, don’t give too much — if the other person isn’t giving their 50%, you’re being cheated. What about giving the guy some time to actually demonstrate that he’s a generous and caring person, a chance to win the woman’s affections?
Another thing is — if the woman earns significantly less, maybe is even having trouble making a living, the guy should not expect her to take him out on dates that involve money, even food! I don’t care if this seems old-fashioned, it’s just plain mercenary for him to expect this of her, more than it would be to expect it of a friend. This scenario is not discussed often, but it should be because a lot of people are hit by the economy right now. I’ve noticed, though, that most of the dating coaches harp on how “successful” their viewers must be (otherwise they must be losers and not worthy of finding a good mate). Marni, I know you are a caring person. The warmth emanates from you in all these videos. I am just saying that a little more realism about people’s financial situations, other than the clients who can afford to pay you, would be welcome.